Piecing is almost harder than before...

[Bolt]

Hey guys,

From my experience with piecing, which is ongoing and always will be with my marriage.

Since both of us were working toward addressing problems and trying to work through them, That DB rule of no R talks, had to go by the wayside. Modified, of course.

Understand she was in a place where she was working on being married to me. So, take the R talk advice with a grain of salt.

Now, I wanted to have an R talk...pfffpt what every day? Temperature check, for that needy I need validation sort of codependant person.

But I also knew that there was no way she would want that...and who would besides an LBS?

I offered to her a compromise, that I would try not to inititate them but once a month or longer, and if something was really bothering me, I would also try and figure it out on my own, and not let it affect our interactions. If I couldn't get over, past or determine that it wasn't important, I would bring it up rather than let it affect me and us.

I'm getting to that point for sure.
I don't feel bad bringing it up but I don't want to make it seem like I'm doing it every day.

great stuff, man.