Recovering after a same sex affair

[sparks14]

Thanks, Jack. I read MWD say that affairs will usually last only six months, so you should just wait it out. Well, this one lasted 10 months, and it wouldn't have stopped if I did not interject. My W also mentioned that their emotional connection was the most intense she has ever experienced.

That didn't give me much hope that it will just die out. I guess that is why I took the approach that I will offer this patient long road towards rebuilding our relationship. If my DB and fight come through, I will be the happiest man in the world. If she decides that her needs can only bet met from a woman, I will learn to accept that, and at least our relationship will be health to co-parent our baby boy.

She agreed to couples therapy, and I have told her a few times that this journey only has room for two. She understands that divorce would be coming if the affair did not stop. Her personal therapist that has been helping her for months with these sexual orientation issues (and allowed the affair for the six months that she started seeing her), told my W to stop contact with OW. Why? Because I said so? That what told me. But really why? Is it because she REALLY is confused and does not know what she wants? Is it because she feared I would fight for full custody if we did not mend the relationship?

Who knows?

I just know that I need to detach from my thoughts about this OW coming back into my W's life right now. I can see us improving. The longer this road goes on, the longer I can DB and really improve. It is just a difficult detachment due to trust and the orientation situation.