Sparks, yours is a tough one...like you didn't know that.
If she is gay? There's a really expensive and painful operation you could go through and pills to take and thats about it.
If she isn't?
That fear is crippling, the unknown, not knowing what the other person is doing or thinking or deciding. Right?
For me I found pressure on my wife about the OM drive them closer together, when on the surface and at the heart of it they wouldn't have worked out very well in the long run. My pressure I think helped them to become more determined to make it work.
When I stopped?
They imploded months later.
That fear of yours, it is in you. I'm not trying ot be flippant, either harness it, overcome it, or be dominated by it. How you do that? I'm not sure, for me, I realized I made poor choices and was unattractive when I let fear control me.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
