Regarding the moving out: 1. Have you checked with a lawyer to see if this could be considered abandoning your kids/family and used against you at a later time. 2. If YOU do not want to move out then don't. 3. If she wants to move out then let her but without the kids. They need to be in their home.
Some general insights: Are you making these decisions from the position of fear? Fear of making W angry. . .fear of Divorce. . .fear of xxxxx. Decsions made from fear (or any other emotion really) are really poor decisions.
I do not know the specifics of your sitch however, I was asked to move out and almost did. I recieved some really good advice and listened to it.
I told her that I was not the one who wanted the D so she could move out if she wanted to without our S. Her response was over her dead body. She added "Do you think that I am stupid. It would look like I was abandoning my son if I left." She was more than willing to let me abandon my family.
One question:
Have you always just gone with the flow? Yes dear, whatever dear?
will
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
