I can keep telling myself over and over that it is not my decision what the W does. I can tell myself that I have to detach and not bring contact with OW or the need for assurances. I am just finding, so difficult right now.

For those that have gone through it and those that haven't, how do you really break free from that fear?

Me - 33 W - 33
S - 9 months
M - 3 years
T - 5.5 years
Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY
PA discovered - 1/18/11
PA began - 3/22/10
Separated