Letting go is hard to do!

[ninelives]

You know SW, you are right about us also being the architecht of our own misery. Because we are so emotionally attached to the situation, we sometimes forget all the crap they have thrown our way. The PA, the unkind words, the trivialization of our relationships that were supposed to last forever and be something precious.

Yes, there is not a person on here that did not contribute to the demise of the marriage in some way. But once we stop beating ourselves up too much, for the most part these were things that could have been overcome with understanding and work.

I think most of us that once faced with the situation, were more than willing to work on things. But for some reason , they WAW felt it was too little too late.

I do believe that some spouses may fall into that boat as they may have done way too much damage and were not willing to listen at all to their partner but I think the majority of us were.

I am at times starting to value myself and think that I can live without her albeit its not what I wanted but am I going to let somebody else ruin my life and ultimately, the life of my children because I cant seem to get on with my life.

At some point, we have to take the bull by the horns and trully detach and move on and if they decide that they made a mistake and want to come back, then let them earn their way back.

I know , strong words but can we sustaing them. I hope for our sakes as the LBS we can do this and be happy again because as My W has said soooooooo many times. Everybody deserves to be happy ; including the LBS's.

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