H takes all the blame - why?

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Thank you Cyrena. The pain of knowing my D is hurting is even worse than my own pain.

My only consolation at this point is that H sees it also, and I am sure that at this point he is processing all of these, seeing the ripple effect of his selfish choices. I remember that Lorie once posted that we should remember that our H's are choosing themselves when they do such things as choosing OW, choosing to S or D. They do not see what hurt they are inflicting on others, until it stares at them in the face (maybe not even then, in many of the sitches I have seen).

Can you imagine the scars being left in our daughter's heart by everything that is happening? How she has been stripped of the innocence that still should be hers at this age?

I myself feel defiled, the freshness, the innocence, the idealism stripped from my marriage.

No matter what happens it will never come back again.