Piecing is almost harder than before...

[MynameisMZ]

Harrier,

I've been selfish, spoiled, and impatient.

My H always gave in to me, let me have my way because
a) it was just easier AND
b) he feared I'd leave him.
He spoiled me.

This built resentment up over 24+ years and eventually led to the A where he was the hero, the man, admired with adoring eyes, listened to over drinks after work...and

I'm really working hard to "hear" him and see his POV.
Working hard to empathize and validate.
I'm so blind to it sometimes.
I can do it so well with my friends.
With H it appears to be a power struggle.
We vie for alpha! LOL.....
In MC we are tackling this one.
It's all still new.
When we find a formula to "fix" this, I'll be sure to share.

MZ