Newbie- Very Lost- Not Sure where to start

[tdb68]

Thanks for the feedback Sandy.. I would help her pack, unfortunately, all of the other things are true too, she has only looked at one place, and she will definitely need money, we have all of our finances comingled, and she would either have to just "take it" out of our joint account and go, or we need to discuss what she needs and see if I agree?? That sounds like it could be a sticky situation. I keep DB'ing and try to never let her see me struggling, but day in and day out, she acts as if nothing is happening in front of our kids, as do I. I know our kids know something is really wrong, Dad is sleeping in the basement, they don't see any affection between anymore, etc.. Both of my boys also just Plunged in the grades at school over the last 8 weeks since this all started, both went from Honor Roll students, to one having a D & an F, and the other having a D.. I am really afraid we are doing more harm than good to our children by living in "limbo"... Anyone comment?