My Wife Wants to Separate

[DeterminedFather]

I'm taking the children to visit my father for a few days so a discussion on the logistics of the separation will have to wait until Sunday evening.

I feel we need to figure out the details of separation. W on the other hand just wants me to leave the house and then figure out the details. I think she wants us to continue with the joint accounts and me paying all the bills.

So question to all: Is forcing a discussion on separation details (overnight visits, budgets, who pays the bills for the house, kids etc, estimated child support based on state calculator) just me being sensible or me being vindictive, petty and trying to make her realize what a mistake this is.

I guess it's killing me that some of our problems were caused by lack of budgeting and W thinking we are poor because we don't have enough money. Now our expenses are going up by $1,500 plus a month (yes, 2 bdrm apts in Mass. are expensive).

It appears she has no plan beyond me leaving the house. No care about arrangements.

When I asked her about mediation vs lawyers she thought that we should just skip mediation because she has heard you just need to get lawyers anyway.

I guess if she is so certain that we are thru I should just file divorce papers myself and get right to it.