Not Sure Which Way to Go

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Is there a way to go dark without me making her feel like I hate her?

Yes,
you live by a code. Your code or boundry you believe in.

You don't allow her to cross those beliefs of yours. Standing firm in what you believe is attractive.
That's where your boundary comes into play. If she feels like you hate her, that's on her. Let her feelings be hers.

She heard that I still care and miss her and now she is back to not talking to me. Before I told her she was trying to talk to me in any way she could.

You started to persue again. She was testing you and you failed.

We all do/did it. Now just don't let it happen again.

Do you think she will get back to the wanting to talk to me. I think this is the key to getting a chance to R.

You're still concerning yourself with her issues.
Don't listen to what she's saying, start looking at her actions.
The whole hugging thing was a test. Your trying to save her. Let her deal with her emotions for herself. Your job is to understand and validate, not to solve her issues.