My Wife Wants to Separate

[DeterminedFather]

I had my first meeting with a DB coach who worked with me on action items Empathy, dealing with button pushing and GAL.
Expressing empathy during our MC the following day seemed to have a positive effect on W but is was quickly followed up by with "why did you wait until now to say that" and "it doesn't make a difference now". Since that seems to be one of her main BP points I need to figure out a better response/non response.

I need to move fwd with moving out of the house since it shows that I'm listening to her and shows that I care.My coach says its also a noble gesture. On the other hand staying there and forcing her out if she is unhappy is a form of pursuing/hostility.

This is scary but I have confidence in it being the right path.