Of course you know not to pursue with those statements at this time. However, if you should lose your mind and blurt that again.....never apologize for it. In that type of pursuit, it makes you look weak to turn around and apologize.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Man, I just was looking over at her and she is so beautiful to me still. It just came out. Thanks Sandi.... AGAIN
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Wednesday, well I made it home and the ride home with wife was ok. Not much of anything. I am just dying here a slow death.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Sandi's right. NEVER apologize if that comes up again. It's putting down your own feelings for hers. It gives her the power. It shows her that she has power over even how you feel.
"I am just dying here a slow death."
The more you keep thinking this way, the more you're more likely to fail. Stop that kind of thinking. Your happiness does not revolve around her. Once you learn that and can detach, you'll be much more poised to know what to do next.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Sandi's right. NEVER apologize if that comes up again. It's putting down your own feelings for hers. It gives her the power. It shows her that she has power over even how you feel.
"I am just dying here a slow death."
The more you keep thinking this way, the more you're more likely to fail. Stop that kind of thinking. Your happiness does not revolve around her. Once you learn that and can detach, you'll be much more poised to know what to do next.
I just had a bad day yesterday and things were discussed last night. Even though nothing changed as far as our situation we had a very good talk. She actually got off the laptop and talked with me. She had a few moments were she got heated but stayed to continue talking about things. She had a moment were she stood up and said "I am done" but ended up sitting back down to talk more.
We went to bed civily and this morning was normal as well.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Okay, so that would be a good place for you to stop with the R talks. It might feel better at the time....or it could make things worse b/c of her closed heart. If she approaches you and wants to talk, then listen to what she has to say and try not to add anything. Tough order!
One reason your beautiful W is driving you crazy is b/c you feel you are losing her. There is something precious you once had available and were free to express how you felt. Now, you see it slipping away and that simply makes you want her more than ever. It's normal for people to feel what you are experiencing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I see and have recognized alot of what your telling me for some time now. I feel obligated to apologize for my lackl of will power even though the advice has been great. I am leaving for 2 weeks this weekend so maybe that will help both of us settle down for a while. I am heading back to the states to visit my parents.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
me too, I will still stay on here if I need to vent.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Well I have been away from wife and kids for 6 days. I miss them but I am starting to see a gap between my wife and I. I still want her but being around family is making me feel love that wife refuses to give me anymore. What should I do?
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
