No. 4 I agree I think it is important to figure out why of a problem/failing as long as the why doesn't become and excuse to engage it. Not suggesting you would do that.
The intent of my post, was to suggest several things.
You wife wants to move slowly. When you don't, or don't move as slowly as she wants, It places your wants above hers. Shows her who is more important.
I think you got the patience is a self control message.
For me, I wanted things better NOW. Because I was afraid. I didn't want to be wrong again about: Trusting her, being tricked with OM again, investing my time and effort. I wanted time to prove that I didn't fail and I wasn't wrong and I wanted that validation now, like yesterday.
That's how I felt.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
