It is so inspiring to see people come here after their divorce has already been finalized.
I am on the verge of that as well, and what I've realized is that at least for now I'm still okay with following a 6 month plan for things I now want to be, do and have in my life.
While it is difficult to envision or dream of a life without my wife, and while there is no way I can feel good about following a plan that depends on the actions of a partner who is not committed, what I'm going to do is chart a course for myself that will leave either road open to me in the future.
This will give me something to focus on for awhile, that I know will lead to good things no matter which way it goes.
My DB coach suggested I find and do things that truly put a bounce in my step. I highly recommend you do the same.
I also recommend you pick up Debbie Ford's excellent book:
"Using Divorce As A Catalyst For An Extraordinary Quality Of Life."
Peace.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
