Divorce finalized....to continue divorce busting?

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I'm pretty sure you hacked my account and copied my story! lol

I'm in the exact same place that you are... add in the wrinkle that I am looking for a job 500 miles away from my wife but have convinced myself that that will give us our best chance at reconnecting and I am pretty much your story.

It's never too late to db... at least that's what I hope. I know of almost no couple that split that didn't at least at some point try to see if they could work it out. Usually the person who wanted to save the marriage is so hurt by that point that they can't get over that. I think that that is why detachment is so important. I think that it helps you to get into a good place mentally without building all of the resentment that comes when you detach naturally.

I really have no idea what my chances are of getting back with my wife. I know that she questioned whether or not was making the right decision and basically everything that I did pushed her farther away to the point where she had to follow through with it to keep from feeling like she was letting herself down. Now she is there and I have to hope that it's not the peace that she was looking for. I have to hope that when everything slows down and she looks around she will miss me. I am keeping myself very open and vulnerable in order to not let resentment creep into my life but that is the price that I am willing to pay.