I think Sandrika post is right on. It is all about pursuit and distance. Realizing that men and women have different traits that they pursue and distance is also key here. Women are normally emotional pursurers and men are normaly sexual pursures. So if the roles are reversed or the distancer feels too much pursuit, that is where the conflict exists. I think her description explains it better than I can but I see the dynamics of this at work here. We need to 180 what is "normal" and sometimes not distance or pursue but just be still. The old squirrel analogy. Hold you hand out and try to feed the squirrel without scaring him away.
It is a tightrope and the drop to the ground can scare any of us from trying to be on the high wire.
