She isn't going to focus on the R until the fantasy is dead. So, yes, I think it is a good thing.
Every one of spouses on here feel pretty much the way your W does. Heck, MWD wrote the words we all hear pretty much letter for letter. But you're right, we do need to find a way to nurture the love and the R. It's hard to do right now when we are not getting the responses that we want, but we still have to continue doing it.
I'm hoping that this trip she's taking will change the dynamic a bit. She's not had a chance to miss you yet because you are still living there together.
Try to hang in there SIC. You're doing a great job and sticking with the plan. That's all you can do for now. Be the rock.
