I appreciate any and all insight. Just curious as to what aspects of H's behavior make you think he's halting too early? And I guess the flip side is, what would make you think it's NOT too early?
I agree, he still has a lot of work ahead of him. He still calls himself "broken" and still has a lot of depression/anxiety issues he is battling. I guess I'm a bit surprised at your take because I wouldn't have even considered him "coming out" of MLC so much as just entering a different stage. But I'm always willing to hear other perspectives because being in the midst of a situation can sometimes blind you from certain things. I found Mila's post a while back where she reminded me of the stages of MLC to be very helpful.
I can see a lot of elements of Depression and Withdrawl in his actions, as well as a little bit of acceptance every so often. I have no plans to beg, borrow or steal to get my old H back. He had issues and problems of his own and I don't want him back. The new me wouldn't allow it. If and when H comes back, I expect him to have worked through his own issues so we can work on building a new and stronger relationship.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
