Pam, I heard that the whole Southern belle thing was just an act. How long until someone in here whaps me for that one? Thanks for the encouragement!
Trish, thanks a lot for your words! Yes, I put a ton of pressure on myself! I like how you re-worded my goal of not starting fights by saying that I will listen more intently before responding. That sounds good, but I really do need to BITE MY TONGUE!! I seem to get upset and voice my opinions on a regular basis...
Yes, parts of my house REALLY are a mess. I am always one to forgo chores to do something fun. I don't feel like I've been holding up my end. H has been washing all of the laundry and he does dishes a lot. Plus it does make me feel good to feel more organized. I have never been one to lose things, but recently I have been losing so many things! Scarf, glove, eyeliner, lipstick...and they may all be buried under the mounds in "my" bedroom. (where I get ready).
However, I do believe in always having clean clothes, clean dishes and a clean bathroom.
There has been a TON of positives since H has been home! Thursday night I came home and he was out working on his truck. We chatted for a few and talked about what to do for dinner, etc. and decided to go to Chipotle since it is not that expensive. H comes in the house and is freezing so he gets into bed to warm up (heated h20 bed). So I get in too and well, warm him up! Then we went to dinner and he was talkative and I had to ask him to repeat a story that he told me Wed. on the phone while I was at work b/c I was being interrupted. Then he asked if I wanted to go anywhere else. I asked, "like where?" And he named a few places and I picked one and we went to have a drink! I asked him about when we would go out separately this weekend. He said he didn't want to do much Friday b/c he is getting up early Sat. to take my truk to work and put the clutch in. So I offered to hang w/him on Friday and we would go out-out w/our friends on Sat. He said, we could go to dinner and get a movie Friday.
Friday (last night) we did just that-went to another inexpensive restaurant in town and rented a movie. He was also very talkative (for him) at dinner and telling me more details about what he did in Cinnci, etc. Cool! This morn. he got up early to go to work I told him thank you. I haven't verbalized YET that I appreciate him being talkative and making suggestions, I just acted enthusiastic and listened intently asking him Q's, etc.
What I did--I came home on Thursday and acted cheerful even if I thought he would be in a bad mood/tired. When we were in bed I was joking around with him and acting positively GOOFY! THIS WORKS!! AND, this is who I am-very silly and goofy.
How long until someone in here whaps me for that one? Thanks for the encouragement! 
Then we went to dinner and he was talkative and I had to ask him to repeat a story that he told me Wed. on the phone while I was at work b/c I was being interrupted. Then he asked if I wanted to go anywhere else. I asked, "like where?" And he named a few places and I picked one and we went to have a drink! I asked him about when we would go out separately this weekend. He said he didn't want to do much Friday b/c he is getting up early Sat. to take my truk to work and put the clutch in. So I offered to hang w/him on Friday and we would go out-out w/our friends on Sat. He said, we could go to dinner and get a movie Friday. 
