Albuquerque living part 3:Strapped in for the ride

[Albuquerque]

Thanks Virginia,

I've been thinking the exact same thing. But I admit I've been having trouble finding a way of going through with it. I've been absolutely NOT contacting him on my own unless I absolutely need his help with D or something. But he definitely is emailing me, requesting I call him, texting me etc ALL the time now. And it DOES feel different than last fall when he came around the first time. So I feel conflicted. I want to be supportive for him and let him know I'm available to chat, but I also agree with you, less is often more. In fact, today, while at work he texted me "Miss you. That's a nice feeling :)" So it appears I'm definitely on his mind.

I readily admit I'm totally winging it at this point. I don't know I'd call what we're doing reconciliation (especially since he still has x-OW commenting all over his FB), but it's not like before and going too dark seems wrong. Which is why I'm trying to leave any and all contact in his court. But perhaps I should try to say no to things (in a nice way) every so often. I will be working a lot over the next week, so it will actually be easy to do that.

I totally agree he's drinking way too much. More of that escapism I suppose. I've been trying to avoid these drunk conversations because they are very pointless. I've already told him that if he comes over again and I realize he's drunk/incapacitated AND still drove, I will be sleeping on the couch. This is such a tough, frustrating road. I appreciate your thoughts. Any words of wisdom are always welcome. Here's hoping I can apply some of your suggestions!