I love him the real him...but I am done being a door mat and I am done being used by a drug user...until he cleans up and loses drug buddies..I will not have him in my life...maybe not good db practice, but good self preservation...
I agree with Starsky.
"DBing" in the sense that some might mean here will be utterly lost on your husband while he's using drugs and seeing OW.
There is absolutely no good at all that come from you you enabling him or, in my opnion, having anything to do with him.
The drugs and OW have to go before your marriage stands the remotest chance of survival. And your loving refusal to have any contact with him at all will give him a greater likelihood of reaching rock-bottom faster. Without you there to meet any of his needs his collision course with reality, if he's on one, will be a whole lot faster. What's more you'll be protecting the most important person in your life, yourself. There are no guarantees unfortunately.
best,
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
