Well it has been a few months since I posted here, I believe there is great value in the Divorce Busting techniques, unfortunately I discovered them much too late, and actually read the book only after my wife had already moved out and filed for divorce. If I would have stumbled on this book 9 months ago, I can't help but think it would have been a different story.
So I signed my final divorce papers about a week ago, so my marriage at least on paper is over. My ex-wife is very adamant about keeping up a friendship, she will admit that over the last few months she has avoided contact and doing things because she knew I wished to work on our marriage and she did not. Now that is no longer a possibility, she seems willing to do things. I did a poor job of "detaching" and when I tried I believe it was too late, now we have done the ultimate detach in finalizing divorce. I told her that from here on out, how we end up will be entirely up to her, putting the ball in her court. We have a pet together, a house together that is for sale but realistically may not sell for a while, so it's not like I can avoid contact with her.
I guess my question is this, how do I try to interact with her now? The "pressure" of being married is gone, so we will see if she lives up to her word and pursue's a friendship. I have read countless posts on here about becoming friends first, she would not allow that while we were legally married, so now I feel like I have a good chance to build a friendship and see where it goes from there. Would love some ideas, suggestions, etc. I want to make our interactions from now on as pleasant as possible, stress free, fun, everything they weren't for a while now. Thanks for the input.
H 30 Ex-W 27 M 3.5 years Together 7.5 years ILYBNILWY 2/2010 Divorced 2/2011
