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Originally Posted By: John170
well i aint being friends with benefits. So she will just have to find someone else


Just thread lightly and who knows, it might be a ray of light. But again, walk lightly.


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she brought it up not me and also said when she starts thinking about getting back together i mess it up


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Did she say what it is you are doing that messes it up?


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and she hasn't text much all day today except to ask me for money


Ah, well......there you go.

Guess I'm in the minority here guys, but I think she was either buttering you up for the money, or she "got off" being a tease. There are a lot of women who do it. It is like flattery to her ego. Now she sees how easy it is to work you.


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Dang!


I am being the possibility of:

1) Integrity
2) Loving myself completely.
3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.

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Now she sees how easy it is to work you.


Only if he gives her the money.


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and she hasn't text much all day today except to ask me for money


Ah, well......there you go.

Guess I'm in the minority here guys, but I think she was either buttering you up for the money, or she "got off" being a tease. There are a lot of women who do it. It is like flattery to her ego. Now she sees how easy it is to work you.


I wouldn't be too quick to completely write it off to this. Who knows, something to consider for sure...

Question: Is the money thing normal? Or does it seem like a big coincident that these both happened at the same time?

I don’t think it matters if you give her the money either way. What ever you do, you will want to monitor the results. If you give her the money and she goes back quiet, and then in a while does the same thing, you have your answer. If she continues to act this way even after you give her the money, maybe it was genuine. Works the same way if you don’t give her the money, see how she acts, and you should have your answer.


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I have given her money before at christmas and she was still cold and didn't talk to me for three months. She knows I will give it to her without question so I don't think its the money but we will see


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Well i decided to give her the money. Im gonna sit back and see how she reacts if she is using me she is using me. I dont know if she is seeing anyone but if she took my money and is seeing someone im done that will be proof she is not the same person i marriage and im done.


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Now she text me this morning wanting to know if i was going to our best friends birthday party sat night. I just said i dunno. Why wont this woman either make up with me or leave me alone?


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