If I remember correctly, you have never replied to her emails, have you? She sure has justified her actions to herself, and has to "hate" you in order to find the rightness of her having an A with your exH. Just because she is married to him now, does not wipe away the A.
Strange, weird person.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim