Let me ask you first: what was the effect of what you did - trying to show how great your life was, etc. Did he notice? Is it positive? Did it make you a better person as well? or were you living in the past, not making any changes? [/quote]
I began trying to be more positive, started working out trying to GAL, stopped nagging him, started doing things for him without complaining such helping him run errands. He stated I was always so focused on our kids and never did anything for him. I did actvities he liked. Stopped calling him often, did not complain when he wanted to go out (which really was only a few times in the last 3 months). I avoid r talks. However in Jan 31 things came to a head when his friend stated he was still involved with the ow (who lives several states away) and the ea had turned in to pa. I flipped out and confronted him very calmly and stated he had to stop seeing her or leave. I made it clear I wanted to save our marriage but would not tolerate the lying and the continuation of the affair. He agreed to stop seeing her and stated he did not want to lose his family. I believed him but this past weekend she posted pictures on her fb profile of them together and a friend found a 2nd fb page under my h name with a different photo of them. My H stated he did not create the page and would take care of it. Again I confronted him and now he is back to saying he has not been happy for two years and maybe we would be happier not together. He left the next day on a buisness trip. I have no idea where we stand a this point.
