You don't need to "go Neanderthal," but a simple-but-firm "You know, I was trying to be kind, to let you sleep in. I really don't appreciate you biting my head off. Next time, maybe you can just get your own Egg McMuffin. I'm going to go grab a shower, and then we'll get going."
Starsky
I don't want to dismiss what you're saying, but saying that to my W when she is escalated is not going to deescalate her. The only thing I can do is end the conversation and leave if I have to. Taking the dog for a walk is a good option. She calmed down when I did it the last time. If that doesn't work , I can take the dog to the dog park. There may be nights I'll have to sleep in a hotel, or leave a dinner party, or take a break from a dance venue.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
