You are all amazing!!! Wow! That is a great article. There is one point that I am hung up on though.....HE DIDN'T CHOSE TO GIVE HER UP AND COME BACK TO ME AND OUR M. He came to me out of necessity. It's that one point that stos me in my tracks.
How do I get around that? He didn't chose a R with me, he chose a roof over his head and this twisted R came out of that. Mutual comfort, KWIM?
This post is precisely why you should NOT confront Gabe. BOTH of you need him to have the space to figure out what he wants without pressure or expectations. Otherwise NEITHER of you will no whether or not his choices are sincere or out of being cornered. Continue double secret probation.
Imagine you had confronted him about the Christmas presents. How would you have felt about the Valentine's gift? Not so good I bet.
LEAVE HIM BE. Unless you are ready to walk, LEAVE HIM ALONE. If the costs/risks of giving him space aren't worth the potential payoff, then that is a choice you'll have to make. But if they are, then don't sabotage things by chasing/cornering.
