Thank You , all of you. I cant explain this down time today and why I am feeling it so hard. I do miss her dearly and just want to talk to her but I KNOW its not the right thing.
Thesse feelings hit in waves. I can't tell you how often in the last week I've cried or felt worthless because of the whole situation.
Its difficult to know that when she is feeling this way, she can talk to her boyfriend and he is the one that is making her feel better about the situation.
You are making a HUGE assumption here.
It JUST DOESNT MAKE SENSE. For almost twenty years we were there for each other. She was the one I went to and I for her.
Do they just forget that? Like i mentioneded earlier, she told a mutual friend of ours that she is not sure if she is doing the right thing but then Im sure buddy boy makes her see that he left is wife and that they are in love and nothing else matters.
They remember all the negative, not the positive. Not the happy times, not he birth of your children, not the hours you spent on the phone when you were dating. So yes they do forget. They associate you with pain and discomfort, never mind YOU aren't the source of it. You contributed to their own feelings of lack of self esteem and value in your behaviour and words, certaintly, but YOU ARE NOT THE SOURCE.
Thanks Again BITS, I am blessed to be part of this club that was a god send. I still think that my marriage is ultimately doomed and I do believe that one day she will wake up from the fog but that will be too late.
Henry Ford said this: "Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right."
If you believe your marriage is doomed...it is. Time to reevaluate that thought I think.
You don't know what is possible and what isn't. Why limit yourself that way?
I wonder how many of WAW;s do eventaully wake up to the destruction they have caused and trully regret their decisions.
I guess we will never Know and that is what makes it even more frustrating.
Peace to every one.
Namaste
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BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
