Divorce or Hope?

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Ninelives, take it easy. Take some deep breaths.

You i try this technique when crazy thoughts enter my head. It works sometimes. I imagine a red stoplight blinking and a loud buzzer. It is a sign for me to voluntarily shift my thinking to something else. walk out. stare at something. get coffee. anything to shift your focus. Try it.

There will be days when some of these feelings really hit you hard. Nothing will make sense. When that happens, just try to shift your focus. When you are feeling a little better, then try to think on your decision to ignore her or engage.

I would say both. When my wife calls and if i have a feeling she's calling to discuss 'her legal issues', i dont answer. I call her back in an hour or two. I feel if she wants all this then let her wait. But if i have feeling it might be related to my daughter, i try to pick it up. How do i differentiate, i just guess. I never make it a point to always pick up whenever she calls. That shows you are just waiting on her. Just my 2c