Karen, T2 tells it like it is! But, it is the truth, sometimes it's not all about what we want and our selfishness. I agree and I've asked myself those questions she has posted to you. And that is why I'm changing my attitude. I didn't like the old me and I'm sure that is why my H went and found someone who was nicer...
Think it over, then you decide. My experience is; if you push, they will go!