Better days are coming for ALL of us. II

[Bolt]

you gals know that if we could, we would.
I'm not talking about the true physical violence either.

I wish some random guy would have come to me about 5 years ago and said, dude, this is where you are headed...

Would I have listened? I'm not sure. I would have liked to think I would. I wish I could say what to say to your men.

Is it an approach? I don't know. Maybe you feel that you are saying the right things to them but you may not be saying it the way he needs to hear it.

I know that if my wife said, "It makes me very sad when you work so hard trying to provide for our family. I like having you around because I love you and want to be with you."

I'm pretty sure I would take that to heart instead of, "You work to hard and don't spend enough time with the family."

The previous tugs at me because even though I was selfish, I never wanted to see my W sad or hurt. Even when we weren't getting along great.

A lot of it is approach.

But another aspect is knowing that there is a communication breakdown and that one of you will have to lead. It's hard because you feel like YOU are doing all of the work.

I'm telling you, if you change the approach you may just get results. What is it called, chasing down cheeseless tunnels? Why not mix up the approach?

Look, your men obviously love you even if they aren't showing it. Be sincere and gentle. You may just be surprised on the outcome.


...and if he still doesn't listen...me, fobd, denver and 2step will come "talk" to him...