I have no idea if this is good advice or not. But if what she is doing with your D is unacceptable to you, perhaps you need to get a L involved. That way it takes any emotion out of it.
You see, that's my struggle - be the one who initiates (and thus, in her eyes, showing her I've given up), or be trusting and be patient with her. Part of me is saying that how she's acting is deliberate and I need to protect myself NOW, while the other part of me is saying how's she's acting is typical of a WAS - childish, immature, crazy, a complete opposite of her TRUE self, calculated but not completely so, misguided, whatever you want to call it.
