Like everyone I feel bad for you, and I'm constantly feeling pain from my own sitch and others I read on here EVERYDAY!
With that being said, and considering that you don't have children I think in some ways you need to think of it as starting over. That R is done (in a good way I mean, the negativity, and the issues that caused it to goto a bad place).
You can continue to be optimistic with regards to potentially re-connecting with your W, but I think you have to act as if you would if you just met her and were looking to date her. Do your own things, try and find happiness in everything you do.
Heck, change careers, change hobbies, change friends, change your wardrobe, free yourself from the constraints. I know they are there because I feel them all day everyday with the pain in my current R/M.
I don't think my W understands that we can have a NEW R/M that is better than our current/old one, and in reality it needs to be NEW or it's never going to work. For me it's much more difficult because I have 3 amazing little girls to worry about as well.
I really hope you come out of this stronger than ever. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say, because I'm struggling to get my point across...
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Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
