I was horrible at detaching, but did finally detach some towards the end. I do think it helped me and actually him too. He got to see what he's missing.
It is really hard with kids. I would take them places and think how awful it was that he was missing it. Then I got to the point that I didn't think that anymore. Being a single mom was my new normal. Through it all though I stayed his friend. I tried to show him I was the better option than living alone and broke.
You may think you aren't making progress...but you are. He hasn't gotten an attorney and hasn't filed. My husband filed after two months but never served me the papers. Keep talking and texting. Try to let him initiate and leave him wanting more.
