Had a good night sleep last night after spending so much energy reflecting and writing about therapy last night. For those that read my novel, thank you. There is calmness over me right now that is hard to explain.
It is almost as if the last few months (and on some points years), my wife and I had a wall between what we wanted to communicate. I think we opened a whole in that wall. It was not necessarily pretty and filled with admiration, and often the views from her were very critical, but it was a start.
I don't know how this will end in the future, but I finally believe that I have a good set of tools to work with in saving this marriage. I have gained knowledge of not just myself but also how to love. I have a supporting community here that has provided me a wealth of guidance. I have an individual and couples therapist. I now have a wife willing to communicate about our relationship. Through communication, I have concrete emotions and feelings from the past that I can work on for her.
I have to be patient, but I think the longer this takes, the better chance I have to really show my wife how the change in me is not temporary.
Is this what DBing is all about?
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
