Need Help dealing with my WAW

[LearningPatience]

Hi Geo, welcome to the club no one wants to belong to

I'm sure you've read and heard all the advice within DB, but I just want to reiterate a few things for you. First, congratulations on the baby steps in regards to the texting and working out. That said, be careful not to try to take on too much at once. The fewer new things you take on at a time, the easier it is to stick with them.

Second,

I'm sure she will see it as a sign that I don't trust her, and she will probably react badly.

I don't know your W, but negative attitudes are not attractive and tend to carry over into other aspects of our lives. Having a PMA (even if you have to 'fake it til you make it') will go a long way into improving your sitch. Go into your finances with the attitude that you are taking control of your life. *If* she gets mad, then validate, but don't worry about it unless it happens. You may be surprised!