FL, no, my H/XH pushed relentlessly for the D beginning within 1-2 months after the bomb. 6 months after the bomb he finally told me why he left while we were working on the terms of the D decree. He told me "I don't know why I don't want to work on our M and I don't know if I ever will". I had been DB'ing for about 5 months by that time. It was pretty apparent to me right after the bomb that H/XH didn't want to go to M counseling because he was afraid to face demons from his childhood. H/XH went to counseling at the end of his 1st M, but in that case his wife was anorexic and had OCD and he was able to vilify her (she had been in and out of treatment a few times). Since I don't have that type of psychopathology, H/XH probably realized that it would be harder to pin the blame on me.
