IL, thanks for the words of wisdom. Yes, you are right. I think if my W wanted to come back right now she would not for two very important reasons:

1) She would have to face her friends (who apparently mean more to her right now than I do.)
2) She would think that she is going to get punished by me for doing what she did. (That part is my fault. For years, whenever my W would insist on having something that I didn't approve of, we would argue. Then, I would give in. She would get it. At some point, it would turn out not to be what she expected, would be disappointed, and express that to me. Instead of comforting her, I would rub salt in her eyes and say stupid crap like, "I told you so!!" So, even if she wants to come back right now, she won't because I trained her to believe punishment would be forthcoming. ALL MY FAULT, COMPLETELY!!!)

I guess I will sit here and wait like a good DBer.

BITS never walk alone!!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...