Sitting at home with myself.

[FellOnBlackDays]

Team, again I can't stress this enough. Be careful with the IL's. I don't care if you have been in a M for 40 weeks, 40 months or 40 years. Blood is thicker than water. I don't care how nice your SIL or BIL seems right now, when the rubber hits the road, they will chose family first. Don't involve them. You are setting yourself up for failure.

Look, for 15 years, my MIL would take me aside and tell me that I was the son she always wanted. One week after my W left, I stupidly walked into the snake's den (her living room) and tried to apologize for what had happened. She went off on me. Told me that I had mistreated her D and that I was getting what I deserved. She also told me that I never made her feel welcome in my presence. Are you kidding me??? What I didn't know is that for well over a year before my W left, she was dumping all our dirt on her mother. I thought our problems were contained, but they weren't. Turns out my MIL was waiting for over a year to get back at me and I gave her the chance. A few weeks ago, my FIL followed and turned on me too.

Yes, they are going to offer to help. But, it may not be the kind of help you were hoping for. To some of them, regardless of what they say to your face, you aren't blood. Hell, you are only family by the piece of paper you signed on your wedding day. And they will get rid of you just as fast as your W tells them to...

OK, I am done. Just some words of advice from someone that has already been burned by that fire!!!

BITS never walk alone!!!

FOBD