Denver and Lost, Both of you seem to be struggling a bit with accepting the nice gift you have been given. What gift? The gift of a chance at reconciliation!!!!
I want you to do me a favor. Next time you are with your spouse and the demons creep in, stop, take a deep breath and remember the rest of us out here. Remember FOBD who is now going on day 8 with no contact from W. Think about where you were and where you could be and then focus on the goal at hand. Take your spouse by the hand, just look them in the eyes and say nothing while you smile like a drunken fool. While you smile, continue to think about where you were, where you are now and where you might be if you hadn't tried so hard to get to where you are now. Then just enjoy the moment. So many of us out here are living through the two of you. And, some of us will never get to where you are now. Give that a thought next time you want to jump the gun or act out toward your spouse.
Just a little 2x4 from your old friend. Now, get out there and keep up the good work!!! The BITS are counting on you to lead the way!
BITS never walk alone!!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
