WAW tearing up our family part II

[ironMan]

Here's my first thread/my story: WAW teating up our family


Starting a new one as I was over the limit

[ironMan]

Uggg, hard day today. Today is my last day at a company that I started working for as an intern when I was 20 ..... aka ... almost 12 years ago.

To make things more fun, the baby has some terrible stomach bug. W is taking her to the doctor today.

On my way out this morning, W saw I was having a hard time. She asked if I wanted a hug .... and I told her the truth ..... no I didn't.

This may have been a terrible thing .... but my emotional plate is full today. And today, all I can think about is how she is quitting. I have never been a quitter. If you've seen the movie Rocky .... that's me. Here I am, changing jobs, giving up a totally secure position, to go earn more $, and be closer to our house so that I can manage my life after W moves out.

I'm taking on the world ..... by myself ... and with the BITS.

But W ..... she's thrown in the towel. Because things weren't as she imagined they'd be.

Sorry, I'm just pissed today. I deserve better than what she's doing.

[sparks14]

Uggg, hard day today. Today is my last day at a company that I started working for as an intern when I was 20 ..... aka ... almost 12 years ago.

To make things more fun, the baby has some terrible stomach bug. W is taking her to the doctor today.

On my way out this morning, W saw I was having a hard time. She asked if I wanted a hug .... and I told her the truth ..... no I didn't.

This may have been a terrible thing .... but my emotional plate is full today. And today, all I can think about is how she is quitting. I have never been a quitter. If you've seen the movie Rocky .... that's me. Here I am, changing jobs, giving up a totally secure position, to go earn more $, and be closer to our house so that I can manage my life after W moves out.

I'm taking on the world ..... by myself ... and with the BITS.

But W ..... she's thrown in the towel. Because things weren't as she imagined they'd be.

Sorry, I'm just pissed today. I deserve better than what she's doing.

I feel for you, ironman. Days like today really blow. Hang in there. Don't quit.

What would Rocky do today? Any chance you can go run the streets of Philadelphia this afternoon to let off some steam?

[Queen_of_Swords]

(((Ironman)))
Hugs are necessary for growth and emotional health. Have one on me.

[Denver_2010]

Uggg, hard day today. Today is my last day at a company that I started working for as an intern when I was 20 ..... aka ... almost 12 years ago.

To make things more fun, the baby has some terrible stomach bug. W is taking her to the doctor today.

On my way out this morning, W saw I was having a hard time. She asked if I wanted a hug .... and I told her the truth ..... no I didn't.

This may have been a terrible thing .... but my emotional plate is full today. And today, all I can think about is how she is quitting. I have never been a quitter. If you've seen the movie Rocky .... that's me. Here I am, changing jobs, giving up a totally secure position, to go earn more $, and be closer to our house so that I can manage my life after W moves out.

I'm taking on the world ..... by myself ... and with the BITS.

But W ..... she's thrown in the towel. Because things weren't as she imagined they'd be.

Sorry, I'm just pissed today. I deserve better than what she's doing.

Even Rocky lost to Apollo Creed Ironman... Be easy on yourself. It is okay to have days like this.

I'd also advise you to be easier on your W... remember, she is going through a difficult time as well...

You focus on you... offer your W unconditional love... be the Rock... the Lighthouse... the man that she fell in love with... Things will fall into place...

BITS
Denver

[ironMan]

Thanks Sparks, Scylla, and Denver.

Yes, I do feel for W ... she is in pain too. This is just one of those times in life when you really would like to have your spouse for support.

But yes, Denver. Rocky did lose .... and he did get knocked down a lot. Just gotta keep getting up until the brain damage sets in :-)

[AJM80]

Time for a dance party IronMan. C"mon - you'll love it. Turn on the radio or ipod, start something for dinner and thank God you're strong and smart and employed and alive. (Oh ya, and dance around the kitchen like a fool)

Dance in the kitchen. When your wife comes home, feel free to dance with her. Hell, maybe she is a quitter and can't do it anymore. That [censored] - more for her than for you, though. You can be proud of who you are and where you're heading. You've taken the oath to be the best person you can be and tonight you should celebrate that. If nothing else, it should crack up your sick baby. And, if you feel like it, take that hug, look her in the eye and give her a compliment. Cue Eye of the Tiger....cause you're RISING up......

[lostinscared]

First, BIG, BIG HUGS, Ironman.

Tell me why you didn't want the hug?

You're still operating from the standpoint that she's given up. That's a problem. (Hey, one I'm well familiar with because I did the same thing). You need to be operating from the standpoint that you have not given up. This is over when you say it's over and not a second sooner. She doesn't have the first clue what she wants. If she did, this would be way done already. But it isn't. So stop thinking about her giving up.

You know all the time you hear stories of triumph. Those poor miners that were trapped underground for months was a great one. Always in circumstances like that, a hero emerges. In that case, it was the last guy out. We heard story after story of fights breaking out, people breaking down, getting sick and giving up. But that last guy? Well, he rallied the troops, came up with work schedules, came up with sleep schedules, came up with a set of rules. He wouldn't let the others give up. Was he mad because the others wanted to give up? Maybe. But that wasn't his focus. His focus was to get these people out of the hole they were in. And he did. Well, my friend, consider yourself "the last guy." Get your family out of this hole. Forget about her giving up. What are you going to do to rally the troops????

I'm praying for you, sweetie!!! Hang in there. You really are doing better than you think you are.

LIS

[Denver_2010]

This is just one of those times in life when you really would like to have your spouse for support.

This is one of those times in life when you learn that you don't need anyone for support...

That you are capable of being happy regardless.

BITS
Denver

[FellOnBlackDays]

Sorry to hear it, Iron. Hey, don't be so hard on yourself or her. Next time, use that offer for a hug as an opportunity to DB. You both need it.

If you are down today, no big deal. Hell, I have been down for almost two weeks. But, each day, I get up, go to work, go to gym and spend my evenings here looking for friendship and support. You can do it, buddy! You are a BITS and BITS don't quit (except in my case... Ha!). You know, do as I say, not as I do, blah blah blah!!

Seriously, remember what I used to post all the time when I first got on here? Yester"day" was the only easy day here. Good luck!!!

BITS never walk alone!!!


FOBD