grr,
Sounds like his little underwear party may have been a test. Women aren't the only ones to try to flaunt it. I just keep going back to the stuff the WAS that I interviewed told me. Throughout his period away, he hid it from his W, but he was miserable. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't work, had to see a counselor. He may be having some regrets and just wanted to see how you would react. Stay strong.

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...