This means that you and your husband have lots of issues to work out. You need to identify which parts of your marriage need to be improved. You will need to change, but your husband will need to change too. He will need to show you that he wants to invest his heart into your relationship. He needs to show empathy for what you've been through all these months. But don't expect these changes to happen immediately; it will take time. You will need to continue to remain patient.
This part - I have no idea what kind of time line fits. I know that you have needs, rational requests to know what is going on... At what point do we go from being understanding and not rocking the boat, to being a doormat / enabler? I have no idea....
But I still truly hope for the best for you, Mish, whatever that may end up being. That you come to realize and value the wonderful person you are, and have a happy life.
