Counseling is out of the question. He refuses and I'm not going to push it.
I asked him out on the date. That didn't go so well. Forgot to mention that. I mean he said yes but you know it was like when the TSA people ask if they can give you a colonoscopy. I mean you say yes, BUT really you don't have a choice.
Now, we spent a lot of time this weekend hanging out and not talking about R issues. But for us, that wall is still there. coaster.
Lost, you tell him to call me!!! I was the spouse that made fun of counseling. By the end, I was going alone and my W had quit. This was after she threatened to leave if we didn't go to counseling. I will give him the 4-1-1 on folks who think counseling is a waste of time!!
Hang in there. I know he is up and down right now, so you are going to have to be the one to keep things level. Try to let go of your anger for now and maybe he will too. The first long conversation I had with my W before she tricked me into what she needed started off angry. But, when I went calm, she followed.
Ahhh, so the date didn't go so well. So what? No one ever scores on their very first attempt (well, except for that kid this weekend that won the Daytona 500... but that was an freak accident.)
I am so excited that he is home. Remember, the real work begins now. Reconciliation will be just as tough or tougher than the separation.
Don't think he didn't notice your little parade this morning. Men always notice and LOVE things like that!!!!
Keep us updated. I will be waiting to hear about how things are going. Take care!
BITS never walk alone!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
