next....there are no words other than I am so terribly sorry.

I completely ageree with your statement..."I am convinced that she needed to see this through to not feel like she was letting herself down." I feel my H is going thru with our D for the very same reason. I think for the first time, they feel like they are in the drivers seat; it's all about control.

I agree with grr. If you feel the need to say, go for it. Say what's in your heart. You really don't have anything to lose at this point. But she does...a great person who loves her and is willing to do anything for his M.

BITS

M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0
T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd)
WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved
Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10
Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11