Just got caught up with your sitch. Haven't been in here in a while and I miss all my BITS.
GODD FOR YOU in doing some retail therapy. I'm all about that.
In terms of the counseling, I agree that you shouldn't push it. My H refused to go as well even prior to our seperation. I had suggested it many times. What I read in one of my many, many books (can't remember if it was DR) but it said just because your S doesn't want to go to therapy doesn't mean it's a bad thing necessarily. It might be your way, but your way might not work for your S and they will just see it as more of the same, nagging, manipulative behavior. The book recommended to go seek it on your own.
I am a firm believer in therapy. Mine certainly kicked my butt in the 8 mos I went to her and I am so grateful. I still wish I was able to go to her, but insurance restrictions no longer allowed me to.
Don't be hard on yourself girl. You know backsliding is part of the deal. Rome wasn't built in a day. Behavior modification takes time and patience. But the next time (if there is a next time) I will tazer you! :-)
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
