Allow me also to clarify my answer. There is no hope to save your marriage whilst you H's affair is in progress. For there to be any chance of saving it your H must come clean about whatever you need him to and if he isn't doing this, the A is likely not over.
If you allow yourself to be used, you will be used. If you are weak and accommodating with your H whilst he's seeing OW you will get equivalent results as if you had a sticker saying "USE AND EXPLOIT ME" on your forehead. Very strong and non-negotiable boundaries are everything and there will be some other posters on here who can give you better advice. Puppy and Coach are two if they're still around here.
Good luck and please be strong.
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
