Guilt is a toxic emotion. It really is at the end of the day. It causes a person to give up on themselves and everyone else. That's why I want you to involve him as little as possible. I want him to believe that you are strong. I want you to believe that. If you need some help (i.e. medication) then so be it. Listen, I needed xanax. It isn't such a big deal at the end of the day. It helped me enormously. But he needs to believe that you are strong so he is not operating in guilt. That changes the face of EVERYTHING.
You are not doing anything wrong. Frankly, the way you are feeling is very normal and there isn't anything wrong with you. But right now, we want to save your marriage. In order to do this, we need to get you well. And we need to make sure that your H knows that you are strong.
Sweetie, what's the game plan. Let's come up with a plan. Let's come up with the things that are going to make you feel strong. You are already strong, because no one walks this walk without being strong. We just need to get your panic attacks under control and you feeling more confident.
