With my H it's all about money. As far as he's concerned he worked for it and it's his. He always was generous when he had the money, but if he didn't we just didn't get the extras. I totally understood that.
In all his MLC selfishness, what I did in being at home and raising the kids or having jobs that worked around that so I could continue raising them doesn't mean squat to H.
He talked about how S24 was being a childish @ss because he no longer wants anything to do with his Dad. He talked about how he resented taking in my infant nephew and said how he wished he had never allowed that. (Nephew had money come in from his mother and the state, H didn't totally support him) He said he did it because I was depressed because of my miscarriage. My miscarriage happened after we already knew we were taking him in.
He said he didn't plan on having two more after we took in nephew. I called BS on that because we jumped through hoops, both of us, to go to a fertility clinics and find out why I kept having miscarriages (4). When I finally got pregnant with D18, we jumped through hoops again to make sure I maintained the pregnancy.
I told him that yes, I went against his wishes when I found out about the pregnancy with D12 and wouldn't abort her. I told him I will never apologize for that.
There were a few things that I let him have it on. I also told him there would be spousal main, too. I figured he may as well get used to the idea.
Snodderly, I told him there are consequences for his choices just like there are for mine. I have no intention of backing down. There are things I will negotiate on, others I will not. I will see to my children just as I always have, and I will protect myself. He lives in a two income house. Ow's income will make up for what he is losing for a few years.
He's getting what he wanted, why can't he be happy?
